“Are you kidding? This is a thing?” I pointed out a bag of ready-to-eat hard boiled eggs to my brother as we walked down the refrigerated section of the store. “Why would anyone pay money for this?”
“Uh… why wouldn’t you pay money for it? Do you know how time consuming it is to hard boil eggs?” I had expected like-minded judgment, not an endorsement of what I still deem an unnecessary product. But I knew we are both too stubborn to be swayed in our own opinions, and perhaps living abroad had made me more out-of-touch than I realized, so I disappointingly refrained from further comment.
Living overseas taught me that Americans (myself included) despise discomfort. Moving back to the States has taught me that inconvenience and discomfort are often synonymous in the American vocabulary.
I recognize that I am making broad generalizations that do not apply to every American. And as I ask for grace in working through the emotions of re-entry, I also recognize the need to extend grace to those I don’t feel I understand anymore. While my short time abroad opened my eyes to new perspectives, I am quick to admit that I am American through and through, and I strive to avoid discomfort (i.e. exercise) at all cost. But it seems like a luxury to be able to pay to have inconveniences disappear, and I wonder if this privilege has weakened our ability to endure even the smallest of hardships.
I most definitely affirm that there are hardships that need to be stepped away from because they are harmful and irredeemable. Examples of these are easily referenced: the abusive relationship, the toxic friendship, the unethical job. But it can be just as easy and convenient to slap this label on any discomfort we feel. “If it’s right, it shouldn’t be this hard,” we say. This seems a dangerous claim to make without proper forethought, especially for the believer who affirms the biblical call to endure promised troubles.
So, perhaps sometimes, when things are hard, it means they aren’t right, but still God is asking us to stick with it for awhile. To be honest, this idea is a little fuzzy for me. Yet I know that there are some difficult circumstances that God has asked me to stay in for a time, if not for the benefit of others, then certainly for my own refinement and mostly for His own glory.
Or perhaps sometimes, when things are hard, it may mean they aren’t all right, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t good. Perhaps these hard things shouldn’t be stepped away from at any time, but rather should be endured and worked through and perhaps even amended. Like marriage. Or exercise. Or hard boiling your own eggs. Certainly our faithfulness can testify to the greater faithfulness of God.
Right now, in the midst of re-adjustment, it is difficult for me to accept the conveniences others take for granted. I don’t want to lose the perspective I’ve gained, but I certainly want to grow more gracious to the perspective of those around me. Mostly, I want to learn and grow in the ability to discern how to proceed when faced with difficulties of various kinds.
God, grant us the wisdom and grace to respond to hardship in the ways that honor You.
Consider it a great joy, my brothers, whenever you experience various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. But endurance must do its complete work, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking nothing. -James 1:2-4